Why is this blog titled Take Him or Leave him? Because women all have one fundamental thing in common. We all want to hold on to men. It’s been going on since the beginning of time. We latch on like a flea to a dog and fight for whatever portion of man we can get our hands on. It doesn’t matter whether he’s employed or unemployed. It doesn’t seem to matter if he works or not, it only matters what we imagine or fantasize about that keeps us coming back for more. He could beat some of you, slap the shit out of you, cheat on you, dog you out, disrespect you in every possible way. Yet, you say, “I love him.” Now if you could hear my voice, it actually contained a southern drawl, but you wouldn’t know that.
Lets take a journey together and see if we can figure out what’s going on with the opposite sex and find out why they are so fucked in the head.
Why men cheat?
The first thing that goes off in womans head as to why he cheated on her is this.
1. Is it my fault? In which I can give you a solid Hell No.
It doesn’t matter how fine you think you are or how fine you actually are, he is going to cheat on you if that is in his character. There is absolutely nothing you can do to stop him. Lingerie sales will decrease after reading this. Men are like this. They are creatures of habit. It doesn’t matter if you’re tits are a 38 FFF, in your mind you may be thinking that ANY man in his right mind would want to enjoy those melons. Right? Problem is? Not ever man finds that attractive. So then you think you have a case of, “oh he’s not physically attracted to me because of my breast size.” Well, what if you met a man who always wanted to dive into those things, does that make him the guy for you? Not at all. That makes him a man who is physically attracted to a woman with larger tits. That’s all. Nothing more.
Breaking that last statement down. You are NOT special. You have large breasts and there are other women with those same exact qualities. You might beconsidered special if you had 3.
Men want women. They want to have sex with us, they want to make love to us, they want to fuck us. There is nothing new there. Right? Wrong! Period point blank, Men just want to have sex. They want an orgasm. And whomever is willing to give them what they want is where they travel. It really doesn’t matter the source. If it has a hole that doesn’t look like a Venus Fly Trap on the end, they will plunge in. We will talk about their choices in another blog. It is not a womans fault that her man cheats on her. You might pose these questions.
A. Well, what if I am a nag and I bitch all the time, wouldn’t that push him away?
Not at all. Regardless of your personality or attitude, men will stay because men have a high tolerance for nagging. Remember, they came from houses where they had mothers, aunts, grandmothers, so they are used to it. Don’t let them tell you that they are annoyed that you nagged them and that is why they left. They are selling you a bullshit line. Don’t buy it.
B. What if I gained some weight?
Seriously? Weight gain? Not at all. Now let me be more specific with this one, because I don’t want to hear that some of you went out and started packing on the pounds to test your boy toys. If a man meets you and you are 130 pounds and after a year or so, you are 250, that is a big difference. He MAY NOT be attracted to big girls. But a good man won’t cheat. He will talk to you about it and express himself. It is up to you to give him what he wants, or love yourself for the woman that you’ve become. If you decide to love yourself for the woman that you’ve become, you are telling him, Take Me or Leave me. Is that what you want? If so, he may opt to leave. If so, respect him. Each person may have a preference.
Those two examples show that men are powerful and willing to do as they please. You cannot manipulate a man into loving you or being with you. Let’s say that he says you’ve gained some weight and truth be told, you did. And then he confesses that he cheated and that your weight is his reason for doing so. Here’s the truth.
He cheated on you when you were skinny as well and is using this as a cop out. You gave him the needed leverage to blame you. He is playing the blame game for sure. Dont’ fall for it.
If you were Selma Hayek, he would still cheat if it is in his nature to cheat. Stop blaming yourself for his shortcomings. No one deserves to be cheated on. Save your money that you would have spent on Lingerie and perfume and shit trying to spruce things up for him. He’s not worth your time. Tell him to fuck off.
If you ever find yourself with an unfaithful man repeat these words.
IT IS NOT MY FAULT. THIS IS ALL ABOUT HIM. NO MATTER WHAT I DO, I CANNOT CONTROL HIS ACTIONS.
TAKEHIMORLEAVEHIM 